We all self-doubt now and then, we all wish that we could be better at something, or that we could change certain aspects of ourselves. We all wish that we could be more like someone else, or that we had certain qualities that they possess.

These thoughts and feelings may seem harmless, but in reality, everyone of these thoughts is putting yourself down, whether you realize it or not. Every single negative thought that you have leaves a tiny bruise on your outlook of yourself.

Often, we don’t even notice ourselves doing, and that is the truly disturbing part. Do we really tear ourselves down so often that we no longer even feel the effects?

i am awesomeIf you’re like most people, you don’t in any way enjoy tearing yourself apart, you may have even tried to stop yourself, but it can be incredibly difficult!

The trick here is simple, for every negative thought that you remove, it needs something to take its place, or it will just creep back in. For every negative you remove, you must place a positive in that position! In this article you will learn just a few of the many ways to do just that!

  • Write about yourself. Get out a pen and just start writing a list of all of the good qualities you have, the things you receive compliments on, the aspects of you that you are most proud of. Make it as long as you can! Keep this list, review it often, and add to it as you think of more. It will help also help you with self-empowerment.
  • Affirmations. Tell yourself how great you are! A good time to do this is as soon as you wake up and look in the mirror, and just before you go to bed at night.
  • Self-EsteemHelp someone else. It is often said that helping someone can be beneficial for the giver than it is for the receiver.
  • Keep a gratitude journal. Every evening make a point to write down one thing, at least, that you are thankful for.
  • Set aside “me time”. Spend some time with yourself! What this looks like will differ for everyone- go get a manicure, take a break to read, send yourself on a mini-vacation- just do something!
  • Face a fear. Whether it’s public speaking or heading out on a blind date, push the fear away and just go for it! Nothing is more of a confidence boost than watching yourself do something that you thought you never could.
  •   Set goals and then achieve them. Make sure that your goals are measurable and achievable. The sense of accomplishment will send your self-esteem soaring!
  • Watch who you are spending time with. Take a moment to evaluate, are the people you find yourself with on a regular basis building you up, or are they contributing to the problem?
  • Find the things that make you happy. Think back, at what times were you at your happiest point? What were you doing? Do more of that!